More thoughts...

So, I have been thinking about things a lot, since the meeting. Protocols mainly. I've had two or more dreams of being in a house like that. Its on my mind a lot. Last night, we went out to the movies, and dinner at a fast food place. But there were things he did, that, while it did feel a bit weird him doing it, felt right in my heart. Opening the car doors for me and Charles. Now, you may think it is odd that a Dom is opening the passenger doors for his subs to get in. Here is why it isn't weird: The Dom opening the car doors for his subs is non verbal permission to get in the car, and at the destination, go with him inside. Now, of course, the subs would need to open the building doors for Sir, then enter behind him. This type of thing, this protocol, I am finding I like this a lot. It...SUITS .. me. Literally, a warm fuzzy feeling. Of course, if we were in a hurry somewhere, "Get in, lets go" and zoom, off we go to get in. And the whole eating thing, it was good too. Yes, a new thing that was tried, a little odd for the one giving direction. But, that will fade once he is more comfortable giving the "Ok. lets eat" order, or something similar. The sub does not unfold his napkin and place it in his lap, until his Sir has done so first. Not before. And the Sub will not eat a morsel of food from any course, until the Sir has taken the first bite. These things please me a lot. It fills this hole I've had in my being for a long time quite well. There's a lot of things in a document that would fit our relationship well. Those being two of them.

Another thing I've been talking some with Sir is that seeing as he has two subs, picking a day of the week, one for each, and out of that day, he sets aside 2-3hrs to be JUST with that Sub. No one else, no other company. Nothing to interfere with that time with the Sub. They can go out and take a walk, go walk around the mall, go to lunch, snuggle and watch a movie. Anything they want to do together. This time needs to be adamant, almost set in stone. There are gonna be days where either of them will want to be left alone, and that should be respected. Sir should ask when it would be ok to have that time. The Sub will NOT turn into a smart-ass, or be in anyway rude with the answer. "Can we try in a few hours?" or "Let us try again tomorrow." The sub should always apologize about the delay, no matter how small. But the Sub should spend time with Sir within 24hrs of the set time. That way, the Sub and Sir can talk about in open communication, what was wrong, regardless of what it was. If the Sir did something to upset, the Sub will say so. Not the story, but a simple "Sir, the way you did/said this, at this time, hurt". No need to go into the story.

I mentioned earlier that I had dreams the past couple nights about all of this. That tells me that this is right. It tells me that this needs to happen. Granted, Sir said that we would exercise Social protocol almost all of the time. I'm thinking a combination of both Social, and Low protocol is what I will practice. It will be the most comfortable. A Sub, while he can speak freely, there are times and places where he does not. In the mall, walking around, the Sub can speak freely, as long as the Sir is in place. Once another person, whom is either unaware of the lifestyle, or is, comes to speak with Sir, the Sub will stand behind and to the right, unless introduced. That's how -I- feel I should act. So I will. I will implement anything I feel is appropriate to demonstrate my position, in addition to what protocols are used already and in the future.

I know there were a couple more things, but I don't remember them. I will write about them when I do remember them.